What are you trying to avoid in your life? The word avoid means to keep away from. When you go through life trying to avoid certain things or situations you will always find yourself playing defense in life.
Growing up I played the position defense in the game of lacrosse. I remember my coach always telling our team that he doesn’t teach his teams how to play really good defense, but instead, prepares his teams by teaching them how to play really good offense. He would always tell us that a team who can play really good offensively will always win, because a good offense wins games, not a good defense.
I remember that really stuck with me and made so much sense. That same concept not only works on the sports field, but in life too. How can you win in life when you are always playing defense by trying to avoid certain things or situations? Simply put, you can’t. You will eventually lose. Avoiding things and situations in life is putting yourself on defense. You basically are preparing to lose. On top of that, constantly playing defense in life is exhausting and depleting.
But when you choose to shift your mindset and go from playing defense, by avoiding, to playing offense, by preparing, you are setting yourself up to win. Place yourself on offense by taking the necessary steps to prepare for what could possibly come your way.
So what have you been avoiding in your life?
I remember a few years ago I found myself begging God to help me avoid another heartbreak. I knew I couldn’t handle having my heartbroken again. I automatically placed myself on the defense by asking God to help me avoid another heartbreak. How many times have you tried to avoid having your heartbroken again?
But see, what God taught me was that I needed to stop playing defense in life and start playing offense. I needed to be equipped with the right tools and mindset in order to properly guard my heart. I needed to be prepared, so I wouldn’t find myself standing in brokenness, disappointment, and discouragement from another heartbreak.
So how do you become equipped with the right tools and mindset so you can properly guard your heart? You start by healing from your heartbreak. In the process of healing you learn the tools and mindset that you need to guard your heart.
In Proverbs 4:23 NIV we see it written, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” It is so important that we learn how to properly guard our hearts and stop playing defense. When our hearts are hurting our entire life will also be hurting. If we live life trying to avoid heartbreak we will not only be exhausted and depleted, but we will eventually lose, finding ourselves in another heartbroken situation. We have to stop playing defense and start playing offense! I mean, who wants to play on the losing team anyways?
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