Few things have hurt careers, marriages, friendships, or parent/children relationships and overall happiness more than losing control of our emotions and saying and doing things we regret. We all get angry and feel anxiety. We all want to give people a piece of our mind. We all get tired of always having to deal with other people’s insensitivities, their lies, and their baggage. At times, we all just want to let loose on them.
The short-term pleasure of unloading verbally on others is not worth the long-term pain you’ll feel by damaging the relationship–damage that may be beyond repair. It is much healthier to take a few deep breaths, stay calm, and articulate your position calmly.
If the situation is too tense, then get out of the environment you’re in and return at a later date to discuss things. The high road is the better road. To better understand your desire to retaliate, look at the ego. The ego inside of us wants us to be right, be first, be better, show others what we are, or show others we are smart, strong, and special. The ego is what tells you to attack the person who is getting on your last nerve.
We can learn something from Buddhism if we want to reduce ego’s drive within ourselves. Buddhism teaches us to let go of the ego by never being better than anyone else. There is no need for physical things. Just be in a constant state of contentment and pleasure.
Great athletes who perform flawlessly under pressure have found a way to control their emotions. Surgeons executing very delicate surgeries do so smoothly by controlling their emotions, and the parents who help their children “off the ledge” when they’re dealing with a significant problem keep their emotions in check to create calm.
If you have difficulty controlling your emotions, get help from a professional or find a great book on this topic. Improve. Something will happen today that will get your emotions going in a non-productive way. How will you stay emotionally balanced and be productive?
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