If someone told you there was hope in the heartbreak would you believe them? Heartbreak causes hurt and hurt can cause you to reach a state of hopelessness. How many times have you been left heartbroken in this life? Maybe a family member has broken your heart or maybe you have had friendships that caused heartbreak or maybe you’ve been in a romantic relationship which ended in heartbreak? Or, maybe you have experienced heartbreak from all three of these situations at some point in your life.
I remember the first time I experienced heartbreak. At the time I would not have used the word heartbreak, but looking back, it definitely broke my heart because it left me feeling unwanted, unseen, hopeless, and not good enough. I was 12 years old, in middle school, and I was left standing alone outside on the playground.
I had just spent part of my lunch period in the bathroom fixing every hair on my head, making sure they were all in place. My bright purple eyeshadow and lip gloss was poppin’. As I took one final look in the mirror, I smiled and said, “Today was the day” and I quickly turned around and walked out of the bathroom and back outside to the playground.
Today was the day I had finally gained enough courage to approach my middle school crush on the basketball courts. As I slowly approached, I practiced over and over in my head, exactly what I was going to say to him. The palms of my hands were now damp with sweat and my heart was racing so fast I thought it was going to jump out of my chest.
Have you ever been in a situation where you finally got enough courage to do something that could either leave you feeling giddy and on top of the world or leave you disappointed, discouraged, rejected, unseen, and hopeless all over again? This moment for me in middle school, was that type of situation.
As I continued to approach the basketball court where he was standing, I decided it was worth putting myself out there. It was worth the risk. So as I made it to the court he was at, I nervously called his name out. He suddenly stopped playing and looked over at me. “What?” He said. At this point I wanted to turn around and run away, but I quickly said, “Um, would you want to go out with me?” I stuttered as I said it. He stared at me and then looked back at all his friends and they all burst out laughing. He then quickly responded, “No, I don’t want to.” Laughed, turned back around, and started to play basketball with his friends like nothing had happened.
I was left standing there all alone. I put my head down, turned around, and quickly walked back to the bathroom as tears were streaming down my face. It was just another risk I took in order to feel wanted, seen, chosen, and good enough, that ended up reminding me of how I actually felt: unloved, unwanted, unseen, and hopeless. I wish I could say this was the only time I experienced this type of hurt and heartbreak, but as I grew older it continued on with all types of relationships.
How many times in your life have you taken a risk in hopes that it would leave you feeling on top of the world, but instead left you heartbroken, hurt, and hopeless? Maybe you’re familiar with the feeling of emptiness, loneliness, and hopelessness. Maybe that’s why when I say, “There is hope in heartbreak” you have a hard time believing it.
I understand because I used to be in the exact same situation as you. I felt trapped in the hurt from the heartbreak I had endured throughout my life. I did not believe I would ever escape the hurt. I had a hard time believing in hope. But today, I can say I have found HOPE in the Heartbreak.
Maybe you’re asking, “how can you find hope in the heartbreak?” There is hope in the heartbreak when you choose to not stay stuck in the hurt. You stay stuck in the hurt when you choose to ignore the hurt that heartbreak has caused. You stay stuck in the hurt when you decide to push it away and keep moving forward. You stay stuck in the hurt when you believe that time will heal all. And when you stay stuck in the hurt, you will continue to find yourself stuck in the cycle of heartbreak.
Hope is only found in the heartbreak when you choose to seek healing instead of choosing to stay stuck. Healing from all the hurt that heartbreak has caused throughout your life takes courage, but it is the only way to truly be set FREE. When I decided years ago to seek transformational healing I found hope. I finally was set free from the chains and cycles that the hurt I was holding onto was keeping me in.
Today, I walk in wholeness, freedom, and fullness. I am no longer a captive to the hurt I experienced in my life. Finding Hope in the Heartbreak is possible for YOU too! But will you take the first step of courage to seek transformational healing or will you choose to stay stuck in the hurt and hopelessness.
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