Thandile
All too often we waste time crying over spilt milk and stressing over what could have been. Regrets of over what we have done and what we failed to do knocks at our door begging for our much needed time and attention. On other occasions it’s the shocking injustice at the hands of those we considered to be friends and close allies. Regardless of the angles it comes in from, we all maybe hanging on to stuff that should rather be left alone.
Disappointments are part of the package of human living on this planet; and therefore learning how to deal with them could make all the difference in achieving much. Denial is never the wisest route to take and clearly not my intention in this message; but rather to provide a healthy alternative to help deal with daily struggles that this life throws at us. It’s important to be honest about how you feel and the reality of what has taken place in order to move forward. This is because acceptance lays the platform for you to adequately deal with the challenge from a truthful standpoint.
Facing the reality can be scary but at least the power it holds over you is broken when it is exposed to light. You cannot conquer what you refuse to admit. There is no shame in admitting faults, but the trouble lies in remaining there as they can only worsen your situation. Remember that no one gets it right all the time, mistakes are inevitable as humans. The famous quote teaches us that to err is human but the beauty lies in being able to forgive yourself and others for the mistakes made.
Letting go of pain and hurts frees you, and does more good for you than anyone else. Yes, it happened but there is life after the fall, after the mess, after the tragedy and after biggest disappointments faced. Your questions on why may not have the appropriate answers; but settle within your heart to free yourself from bitterness that may emanate from the wrong doings.
Furthermore, you may also have to forgive the apology you may never get to realise the road to lasting liberty from the past. Whether others admit their role in the mess or not does not have to stop you from taking charge of your own liberty and healing.
The best thing that you can do for yourself is to let go and let it be. What cannot be fixed should be left alone. Spend your time on what it is crucial for your existence and not what disrupts your peace. Refuse to be distracted from the main mission. This is the greatest gift that you can give to yourself, and will lead you into peace despite the storms along the way.
Love T
