Dr. Rhonda Richmond
I just got back from vacation and realized—both while away and upon returning—just how tired I was. My body needed the rest, but I noticed something else during this time: rest looks different for everyone.
For many, rest means a quiet room without noise or interruptions. For others, it’s lots of activity or time spent in nature. During my trip, I had the opportunity to sit in silence, walk on the beach, and even enjoy a massage. While these were beautiful experiences, they weren’t where I truly found rest.
For me, rest is a patchwork of different things. I often sit with the television on—not because I’m engrossed in the show, but because the soft hum of sound creates a comforting background. It’s a simple distraction that brings me peace. Growing up in a home full of noise and voices, silence wasn’t something I associated with calm. Even now, with my husband and me having raised five children, silence often meant something was wrong. The hum of activity, whether from the TV or the laughter of my family, creates a restful space where I can process my thoughts and feel grounded.
This approach to rest might seem unconventional. I’ve often heard advice to shut out all noise, sit alone with your thoughts or with God, and fiercely protect that space. While I absolutely value those moments of stillness with the Lord, I’ve come to understand that rest isn’t one-size-fits-all. God created us uniquely, and our need for rest reflects that individuality.
Sometimes, rest means feeling my children’s presence while I work through my thoughts. Other times, I treasure rare moments of complete silence, soaking in the stillness. There are also times when being with friends—whether in person or on a phone call—provides the kind of rest and renewal that nothing else can. Each of these moments brings me peace and recovery, even if they don’t align with someone else’s definition of rest.
Why Rest Matters
Rest isn’t just a physical need; it’s a spiritual and emotional necessity. Scripture reminds us in Psalm 23:2, “He makes me lie down in green pastures, He leads me beside quiet waters.” God knows our need for restoration, not just for our bodies but for our minds and hearts.
For those of us with social anxiety or neurodivergence, rest is even more vital. The constant navigation of social norms, sensory inputs, and unspoken expectations can be overwhelming. Without intentional rest, we risk burnout, heightened anxiety, and emotional depletion.
The Power of Rest
Here’s what rest does for us:
- Rest Calms the Nervous System
Our minds are constantly processing stimuli, and for those with heightened sensitivity, even small interactions can feel monumental. Rest helps quiet the “fight or flight” response, allowing us to experience the peace that God promises. - Rest Enhances Creativity and Problem-Solving
Stepping away from life’s busyness allows our minds to connect dots and generate new ideas. Some of my best insights come when I’m painting or sitting quietly with a cup of tea, letting God’s guidance flow. - Rest Builds Resilience
When we’re running on empty, it’s hard to face life’s challenges. Rest refuels us emotionally and spiritually, enabling us to meet difficulties with grace.
Finding Your Own Rest
Rest is deeply personal. It may change depending on the season of life you’re in, but the important thing is to prioritize it and to give yourself grace in finding what works best for you. For me, rest is about leaning into what I need in the moment—whether it’s the sound of my children’s laughter, the stillness of silence, or the encouragement of a friend.
Above all, rest is a gift from God. It’s not about achieving perfection but about accepting His invitation to be renewed. Matthew 11:28 reminds us, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”
So, how do you find rest in your life? What brings you peace and recovery when the world feels overwhelming? Let’s embrace rest as the gift it is and allow God to restore us fully—body, mind, and spirit.
